Repost from my Top Ramen for the College Soul blog
When a friend sent me the link to a blog titled "Don't Date a Girl Who Travels", my eyes were glued to the screen reading each description and seeing how accurate it was to my life.
Only when I reached the bottom of the page and saw the link to the original blog that inspired the writing of this article, did I see the gender roles at play. It was called "Date a Man Who Travels".
Both articles are like mirror images of each other: describing basically the same person, but arguing that a woman with these qualities is undesired and un-dateable. Meanwhile, her male counterpart is the ideal candidate to follow around, marry, and raise children with.
Why do the perceptions of the same personality change based on gender?
Why should guys shy away from a girl who travels because "she tends to speak her mind," and "has chosen a life of uncertainty and goes with the flow and follows her heart"
But every girl should swoon for a guy who "paints a picture that brings you into his world," and marvel at how "he’s not blinded by a single goal but enlivened by many."
Why is the man praised as "fiercely independent," while the girl is bashed as "too independent"?
But don't worry ladies, if you dream of living a fulfilling life, all you have to do is find a traveling man to piggy-back on. Because "you deserve a life of adventure and possibility. You deserve to look at life through the eyes of youth and with your arms wide open."
Yes, of course, because a woman is by nature a sad creature who lives in fear of adventure, seeing through the eyes of an old hag, with her arms crossed over her chest. Thankfully, she still has the opportunity to find joy in the open arms of a man.
So I say, date the girl who travels...if you can keep up.